“The Wounds of Rejection…the Healing of Redemption” Article by Lauri McNair, MS
Rejection, in its most basal form as it relates to the human nature, is the denial of relationship. It is to exclude an individual from social relationships, to discard, or to deny intimacy. The act of rejection is insidious in that it denies a core need—relationship. We are relational people; created to experience the warmth, protection, love, and security that relationship brings. When one is denied this fundamental need, the effects can be quite devastating.
Research suggests that physical pain and the pain of rejection may hurt in the same way, as they activate the same “pain”processing pathways in the brain. The same regions of the brain are activated—the secondary somatosensory cortex and the dorsal posterior insula.
Rejection is an “identity assassin”. Its assignment is to have us utterly thwart our God-given assignment, purpose, and destiny. Rejection wants us to believe the lie(s) that we have been told. Lies that we are not good enough, not smart enough, not pretty enough, not sexy enough, not rich enough, talented enough, etc...you fill in the adjective most fitting for you.
Overcoming Rejection "I will praise thee for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvelous are thy works; and that my soul knows very well."--Psalm 139:14
The key to overcoming rejection is to know "very well" that God has made you fearfully (full of wonder and awe) and wonderfully and that all of God's works are marvelous. That is a biblical truth that we have to know and believe in the core of our soul. The lasting impact of rejection can bring about our own efforts to "self-destruct" because we have believed the lie. That is why Psalm 139:14 is critical to our moving forward. We must refute rejection, and the lies therewith, with the truth of God's word.
Make a decision to side against the rejection as well as your own suspicion or surmising that maybethey were right; perhaps there is a measure of truth to what was said of me. Choose to align yourself with the truth of God's word. Decree, "I am fearfully and wonderfully made. And that, my soul knows very well!" As we make these declarations over ourselves, every lie will be dislodged and the feeling of rejection will depart.
Prayer for Overcoming Rejection "Father, in the name of Jesus, I confess that moment of rejection hurt and wounded my soul. But, I decree your Word over my life according to Psalm 139:14. All of your works are wonderful and that includes me! I release the pain of rejection to you, and I receive the truth of your word, in Jesus' name. Amen.