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Deciding to Go with God

2/28/2017

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 "Elijah went before the people and said, “How long will you waver between two opinions? If the Lord is God, follow him; but if Baal is God, follow him.” But the people said nothing."--I Kings 18:21(NIV)
One of my favorite stories in the Bible is the "showdown" between Elijah and the prophets of Baal on Mount Carmel.  It is full of all the elements that make for good story--intense conflict, nail-biting intrigue, humor (hints of sarcasm), suspense, and a dramatic resolution.  

​I Kings 18 in a nutshell, is an account of a famine in Samaria, Jezebel murdering the prophets of God, Obadiah hiding 100 prophets in two caves, and Elijah coming to town with a word from God, and a miracle of fire and rain.  See...told you it's a good story!  Read it when you can.   

​Particularly intriguing is Elijah's pointed question to the Israelites in verse 21--
how long are you going to vacillate and be wishy-washy? (Emphasis mine).  Yet, perhaps more intriguing is the silence of the people.  No one answered!  Is this true of us today?  When it is time to make a decision to go with God, to align ourselves with his word, his truths, his promises--why is there ambivalence and confusion?  Why  the silence?  Is it the result of fear? Uncertainty?  Why is it difficult to choose?  In the case of Elijah and the prophets of Baal on Mount Carmel, God answered the prayer of Elijah with such fire from heaven that it consumed everything--even the stones and dirt that made up the altar!  Elijah slaughtered the prophets of Baal in the Kishon Valley.  And if all that was not enough, God sent rain to end the famine and empowered Elijah to run faster than Ahab's horse in order to beat the approaching storm!  Wow!

​This biblical account is a reminder of the power of God.  His power is available to each of us.  His power enables us to overcome adversity, triumph over tragedy, and experience wellness in our souls.  And, it all begins with a decision.

If this speaks to your heart, may I encourage you to explore what is causing you to vacillate?  What is bringing confusion or uncertainty to your soul?  Have you lost your voice?  Are you awaiting permission to make a decision to bring wellness and health to your soul?  Are you thinking quietly in your heart, "What if it doesn't work?  What if God will not hear me?"  If you are internally nodding to these questions--take them to God.  You can be honest and forthright with him.  He is a loving Father who desires relationship with you.

Prayer
​Father, in Jesus' name, I confess that I feel ambivalent and uncertain concerning my walk with you.  I have lost my voice along the way, but today I purpose in my heart to chose to follow you.  Thank you for giving me the grace, strength, and courage to walk in faith and follow you whole heartedly.  Thank you for your power at work in my life that gives me the victory over doubt, negativity, uncertainty, pessimism, and stagnation.  I receive it now.  Amen and so be it according to your word.
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Enjoying Life

2/22/2017

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I recently watched a news report on a couple married 65 years; he is 90 years old and his bride is 89.  When asked what was their key to longevity and marital bliss, his response was, "Life is not existing, life is enjoyment."

​How many of us are missing out on this truth because we are distracted by the cares of life? Or because of fear, hurt, trauma, and a history of abuse or neglect make "enjoying" life seem like a fantasy? 

Perhaps you are thinking...
  • Yeah, right. 
  • Do you know what I have been through?" 
  • I raised myself and my siblings. 
  • I took care of my alcoholic parent. 
  • I was abused. 
  • I was not loved well. 
  • I had to fend for myself. 
  • Enjoyment?  I was trying to survive! 
  • Or, I'm trying to survive.  I am barely keeping my head above the water.  I don't have time to enjoy anything!

If the idea of enjoying life rather than existing through it seems lofty and unattainable, I have good news for you!  You have the capacity to enjoy life, because it is God's gift to you.  ​If life seems like a rat-race, if you are a workaholic, if you have experienced unspeakable pain and the mere idea of enjoyment seems foreign or frightening--may I encourage you to receive God's word by faith?  Explore why enjoying life is uncomfortable.  Talk it through with your pastor, therapist, or counselor.  Allow yourself to make small attempts to relax and enjoy the life God has given you.  It could be something as simple as taking a nature hike or feeding bread crumbs to birds.  Allow yourself to enjoy that moment.  Try sitting outside to sip a cup of herbal tea.  Play a board game with your children.  Take a deep breath.  Enjoy God's gift.  He wants you to live a life full of joy (John 10:10)

​Prayer
​Father, in the name of Jesus, I thank you for your word.  I confess that I have not been enjoying life; my heart has been overwhelmed with/by____________.  I give this concern to you now.  I cast my cares at your feet because you care about me according to I Peter 5:7.  I thank you that each day you make is a good day.  I will rejoice and be glad in it (Psalm 118:25).
 
I receive the capacity to enjoy and experience the abundant life that you have promised (John 10:10).  Amen and so be it according to your word.



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You Are Loved

2/14/2017

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“...Yes, I have loved you with an everlasting love..."--Jeremiah 31:3(NKJV)

Some of the deepest core longings of the human heart are love, acceptance, relationship, and security.   When these core longings go unmet, the ache of the human heart is profound and at times unbearably overwhelming.  Abuse, rejection, abandonment, violence, bullying, and trauma are some instances in which the longings of the heart go unmet.  As a result, we begin a futile pursuit of "looking for love in all the wrong places".  We look to people or things that we hope will relieve the pain of being denied a need, or at least bring temporary comfort and soothe the ache of a longing heart. 

 At the root of many emotional struggles and challenges, maladaptive coping skills, relational and behavioral problems is the unmet longing of the heart--the need to be loved, accepted, and secure.  These longings are natural, instinctive, and designed by God.  Only God can truly meet the needs and longings of the heart because he is love.   

And, his love is unconditional and pure.  It is not something we can earn--we already possess it.  How can we earn something we already have?  Even if you feel unworthy or undeserving of his love, it does not change the fact that you already have it.  Simply open your heart and accept the gift that you have been given.  If you made mistakes, done things you regret or are not proud of--simply ask for forgiveness.   Tell God you are sorry.  His love even covers our sins.

Prayer:
Father, thank you that you love me.  I thank you that I am special and that you care for me.  I thank you for your unconditional love.  I open my heart to you and I accept your perfect gift of love.  I pray that you would forgive me of every sin and remove; uproot any thoughts that would keep me from embracing this truth.  In Jesus' name,  amen.




​Today's blog post was originally posted on February 12, 2015.
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Leaving the Place of Wounding

2/7/2017

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"When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things."--I Corinthians 13:11 (NKJV)

​Childhood trauma wounds and mars a child's developing sense of self.  At the point of trauma, when a child's sense of safety, security, worth, value, and importance is compromised, negative thoughts and core beliefs begin to take form.  If not addressed, these thoughts and beliefs may be carried into adulthood.

​Traumatic events do not define us.  However, the wounded child part of us  may believe whole-heartedly that the event is a defining moment.  These core beliefs can be very challenging to dismantle as adults because the wounded child within us believes, relives, and replays events.  The wounded part of us will even offer reminders if there is an attempt to break free of false beliefs.  For example, internal thoughts like, "Remember, nobody will ever love you" or "Your dad left because you were bad" or "Remember, this person hurt you and nobody believed you--you are a liar".

​It is possible to leave the place of wounding and develop a belief system that is not rooted in trauma, but rather truth.  It is possible to be well in our soul; no longer plagued by reminders.  I Corinthians 13:11  illustrates the transition from the perspective of a child to the perspective of an adult.  It involves a willful, volitional decision to "put away" or deprive of power, render inactive, or sever the perspective of child-like speech, thinking, and understanding.  When we no longer allow the wounded child part of us to be at the wheel of our hearts, we are ready to begin our journey to health, wholeness, healing, and wellness.  We are on our way to abundant living (John 10:10)

​One of the ways we begin our journey is by counteracting the constant rehearsal of negative thinking by meditating and praying the truth of God's word.  This is a spiritual discipline.  The more we practice this principle, the more our minds become renewed (Romans 12:2), thereby changing our thinking and perspective.  Here are two examples of how one may pray and meditate on the scriptures:


  • "But ye are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, an holy nation, a peculiar people; that ye should shew forth the praises of him who hath called you out of darkness into his marvellous light..."--I Peter 2:9(KJV)

​Prayer:  Father, in the name of Jesus, I thank you that you have called me out of the darkness of abuse and trauma into your light--which is love, peace, safety, security, and acceptance.  I thank you that you say I am chosen, royal, holy, and unique. I am special.  I am a person of worth, value, and importance.  May the truth of your word hit my heart.  Amen

  • "Behold, at that time I will undo all that afflict thee: and I will save her that halteth, and gather her that was driven out; and I will get them praise and fame in every land where they have been put to shame."--Zephaniah 3:19(KJV)

Prayer:  Father, in the name of Jesus, thank you have not forgotten me.  Thank you for your promise to undo all that has afflicted me--the shame, the hurt, the embarrassment, the lack of regard.  You are undoing feelings of insecurity and worthlessness.  Thank you for bringing me to a place of wellness in my soul.  Amen and so be it according to your word.
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If this resonates with you, and you would like additional prayer or supportive counseling, please contact us at lauri@abrokenheartsgps.org or call 1.866.460.8976.

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Issues...

2/2/2017

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"Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life."--Proverbs 4:23(KJV)


​The Bible tells us that if we are to guard anything, it is to be our hearts; more specifically--our thoughts.  Why?  

The issues of life,
  • actions
  • summations
  • conclusions
  • choices
  • decisions
  • behaviors
  • core beliefs
  • habits
  • proclivities
  • inclinations
  • stereotypes
  • judgments
  • associations
  • prejudices
​...all begin with a THOUGHT.   

So how do I keep my heart with all diligence?  By closely monitoring my thoughts.  Like a guard or a security officer, I vigilantly and diligently monitor what I allow to enter my "space", my "world", my "sphere".  Is it good for my soul?  Is it healthy or is it toxic?  Is it nourishing or contaminating?  If it is not good, I do not give it access.  If it is a negative or intrusive thought, I do not entertain it or  muse over it.  I do not give it my time or energy. 

Can we keep it 100?  Can we be real?  Can we be honest?  There are a lot of things that are readily available to us that are not necessarily good for our hearts (mind, soul).  Certain people or groups, environments, conversations, TV shows, music, movies, etc. that may be entertaining  but are not nourishing, edifying, or wholesome.  When we decide not to give these things access, we are guarding our hearts.

​Most of us would not opt to eat a box of dough-nuts, a few hot dogs, a bottle of soda, and a gallon of ice cream for breakfast.  Sounds ridiculous, I know--but you get the point.  Can we be as diligent with guarding our heart?  Purpose to guard your heart by monitoring your thoughts and keeping in surveillance what you give access to, just as much as you monitor your physical diet. 

​Hebrew Word Study of Proverbs 4:23

​keep (H5341) natsar: preserve, observe, watch, keep guard

​heart (H3820) leb: heart, mind, thinking, thoughts, inner man, soul, understanding

​diligence (H4929) mishmar: station of watch, a  watchman, prison guard, the act of  guarding

​issues (H8444) towtsa'ah: outgoing, border, going out

​life (H2416) chay:  life, live, alive

Prayer
​Father, in the name of Jesus, we thank you for your word.  Thank you teaching us the importance of guarding our hearts.   Give us the strength and grace to monitor our thoughts as well as what we allow to access us.  We thank you for the ability to discern what is nourishing and what is not.  We pray for wisdom in our daily lives so that we may experience abundant living and that you would be glorified.  Amen and so be it according to your word.


​Hebrew word study from Strong's Exhaustive Concordance.
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