Many who have experienced deep hurt and sorrow as a result of trauma, abuse, neglect, rejection, and/or abandonment often struggle with feeling happy. Yet the Bible has a lot to say about happiness. The bottom line is, God desires that we be HAPPY. This is not to suggest that we will not have struggles, trials, challenges, and difficulties. We know that we will:
“These things I have spoken to you, that in Me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation; but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world.”--John 16:33(NKJV)
We cannot deny, ignore, or avoid the pain lodged in our hearts that is the result of a horrific incident. But, we do not have to stay locked in that place. As we allow God to heal the wounds of our heart by bringing them to him in prayer, be seeking out godly counsel and support, we can begin to move forward. One of the ways we move forward in life and the process of healing is by giving ourselves permission to be happy. Guilt, shame, embarrassment, and various other elements may make happiness seem elusive or unobtainable; yet it is possible.
Consider these suggestions:
* Go on a walk
* Take a Zumba class
* Watch something funny on TV--laugh! (Our family like to watch America's Funniest Home Videos--it's a guaranteed laugh)
These suggestions may sound silly--but they release serotonin in the brain; the "happy" chemical. As you begin to experience the feeling of happiness, know that it is okay. God wants you to be happy and you have permission to be happy. Now, give yourself permission!
Prayer:
Father, in the name of Jesus, I come before you on behalf of every person who is struggling with giving himself/herself permission to be happy. I pray that you would remove that stronghold now. I pray that they will receive that which you have so freely given according to John 16:33. Amen.
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